Here's my opinion on this:
I loved CM 01/02, i love FM09.
I don't love many of the features in FM09, however i accept that things must move forward, and that no one would buy the game each year if it didn't have new features and it just had database updates, because these are available for free in many places on the internet.
Again, i do agree that there are some features that aren't exactly worthwhile, such as the Press Conference. However the game is called "Football Manager", not "Kind of like being a Football Manager, but we take stuff away that a few people might not like". They are always striving to make the game more realistic, and i expect them to add more features that i won't use in FM10. Will i like it? No. Will it make the game more realistic? Hell yes!
In summary, i hope you see my point, i agree with you in some parts, but i salute SI for wanting to make the game ever more realistic, and not wanting to make a big backwards step to when, yes, the game was more fun, but lacked the richness that i believe can be found within FM09.